Decision-Making

In addition being a crisis magnet (more on that at a later point in time), I also seem to be a decision magnet. As in, when people don't know what to do or which path to go down, they tend to ask me to a) give them some guidance, b) help them make their decision for them, or c) make the decision for them anyway.

I can't say that making decisions has always been easy for me. I'm the kind of person that likes to mull things over. I think what people confuse for decision-making skills on my part are sticking skills. By sticking, I refer to sticking by a decision. Once I've decided something, that's it. I've done all my mulling, questioning, and pondering by that point. I can take ages to decide what is a path to pursue, but once I pursue it, I don't leave it. Blame it on the stubbornness, I suppose.

Honestly, I think people in general can make decisions just fine. It's the sticking that always gets people. Much earlier in this blog, I wrote about relationships. How people come to the decision that they need a partner, emotionally and physically, to be fulfilled. How often do people actually stick to that decision? There have been so many times where I see that decision made and regretted. I mean, it's one thing to regret a decision involving school, or work, or money, or any other non-feeling thing. Regretting a decision made about other human beings is kind of a big deal. I'm not saying never get into relationships or stick in them when they go sour. What I am saying is that deciding to get involved with people isn't something that should be taken lightly, either in the decision-making process or the relationship stage.

Before I get too off track, what I think attracts people to me in this aspect is the fact that I do stick by my decisions. This can be good many times, but not so much when I make unwise choices. There are plenty of things I have done that I have regretted, many paths than I have traveled that I probably should have turned back on. But then I wouldn't be where I am now had I not traveled them, and I'm not ok with that. I like who I am. I like most of the people I've met and most of the experiences I've had. I realize that I would not be where I am today if I kept flip-flopping on my choices. Every experience has been a learning moment for me, because I chose to learn. Had I decided no or maybe, I'd just keep going around in circles.

What I'm trying to say, I suppose, is that life is full of decisions we have to make. Many of us spend a lot of life trying to figure out what to do, to the point that by the time we've made a choice, we're dying. People like myself, who make decisions and work with them on a regular basis, are seen as rare, apparently. And folks are drawn to rare things. Drawn to things they want to have and things they want to accomplish.

And I guess that makes me lucky. :)

RG