Lately, I've been noticing a very disturbing trend among people I know. It's a trend that involves people chasing after things or people they know are terrible for them. A trend that involves making the worst possible choices and expecting the best possible outcome only to be severely disappointed.
And no matter how many times these decisions don't work out for them, these people keep making them. And then they whine about it. A lot. *sigh*
I want to be a good friend, I really do. I want to be there for people when times are tough and when times are good. But I don't want to be a part of watching people destroy themselves and others for no good reason. What is the difference between being a good friend and being an enabler? When does one stop and the other begin? Does telling someone "That's a terrible idea," put me in the bad friend box even if it's true? It seems that way, sadly.
Everyone makes mistakes. No one is perfect. Hell, I know I'm not. Thing is, I learn from my mistakes. I try not to make the same one twice, never mind multiple times. And don't get me wrong, plenty of other folks I know also learn from their mistakes, and I respect them for that. I can always respect growth and change in a positive direction. I can't respect growth and change born out of selfishness or a change that harms others or oneself, intentionally or not.
This whole need to reboot is so I can grow in a positive direction and make choices that will make me and others happier in the long run. And really, as long as I don't stray from that, I'll be fine. I just don't want to go so far and leave folks behind. It's a real shame they've decided to walk backwards, because they won't find anything they need by going that way. I'd tell them, but it's not my place, apparently.
RG
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